Author Question: What are the consequences of discovering that you've been lied to? In an interpersonal relationship, ... (Read 71 times)

roselinechinyere27m · **on:** Jul 15, 2018

What are the consequences of discovering that you've been lied to? In an interpersonal relationship, the discovery can be traumatic. As we grow closer to others, our expectations about their honesty grow stronger. After all, discovering that you've been lied to requires you to redefine not only the lie you just discovered, but also many of the messages you previously took for granted. Was last week's compliment really sincere? Was your joke really funny, or was the other person's laughter a put-on? Does the other person care about you as much as he or she claimed? Research has shown that lying does, in fact, threaten relationships. Not all lies are equally devastating, however. Feelings like dismay and betrayal are greatest when the relationship is most intense, when the importance of the subject is high, and when there was previous suspicion that the other person wasn't being completely honest. Of these three factors, the importance of the information lied about proved to be the key factor in provoking a relational crisis. We may be able to cope with misdemeanor lying, but felonies are a grave threat. An occasional white lie in an otherwise honest relationship doesn't pose much threat. Major deception, thoughespecially when it is part of a pattern of deceitis likely to provoke a relational crisis. In fact, the discovery of major deception can lead to the end of a relationship. More than two-thirds of the subjects in one study reported that their relationship had ended because they discovered a lie. Furthermore, they attributed the breakup directly to the lie. The author's claim that As we grow closer to others, our expectations about their honesty grow stronger. is

a. inadequately supported by using generalizations.
b. adequately supported by factual details.

Question 2

What are the consequences of discovering that you've been lied to? In an interpersonal relationship, the discovery can be traumatic. As we grow closer to others, our expectations about their honesty grow stronger. After all, discovering that you've been lied to requires you to redefine not only the lie you just discovered, but also many of the messages you previously took for granted. Was last week's compliment really sincere? Was your joke really funny, or was the other person's laughter a put-on? Does the other person care about you as much as he or she claimed? Research has shown that lying does, in fact, threaten relationships. Not all lies are equally devastating, however. Feelings like dismay and betrayal are greatest when the relationship is most intense, when the importance of the subject is high, and when there was previous suspicion that the other person wasn't being completely honest. Of these three factors, the importance of the information lied about proved to be the key factor in provoking a relational crisis. We may be able to cope with misdemeanor lying, but felonies are a grave threat. An occasional white lie in an otherwise honest relationship doesn't pose much threat. Major deception, thoughespecially when it is part of a pattern of deceitis likely to provoke a relational crisis. In fact, the discovery of major deception can lead to the end of a relationship. More than two-thirds of the subjects in one study reported that their relationship had ended because they discovered a lie. Furthermore, they attributed the breakup directly to the lie. From this passage, we can infer that

a. a single lie cannot cause the breakup of a relationship.
b. most people don't expect honesty from those they know a long time.
c. young people are more likely to lie than mature adults.
d. dishonesty is unimportant in a relationship if people truly care for each other.