Answer to Question 1
Responses should consider:
Reasons why people like oral sex:
- Most people who engage in oral sex, whether giving or receiving, find it to be an extremely intimate, pleasurable, and exciting activity.
- Some couples feel that giving and receiving oral sex creates more intense feelings of intimacy than any other sexual behavior.
- Some people enjoy the feeling of the mutual enjoyment and acceptance of their partner's entire body that oral sex represents.
- Most people who engage in oral sex find it a highly physically arousing behavior, in which stimulation can be focused exactly where and how it feels the best.
- Some find that orgasms achieved through oral sex feel different or better than those achieved through masturbation, touching, or through intercourse.
- Oral sex can serve as a substitute for sexual intercourse. Some couples who have made a decision to avoid intercourse due to personal moral beliefs, or for other reasons, will engage in oral sex as a way of exploring intimacy without intercourse.
Reasons why people may feel uncomfortable with oral sex:
- Some people believe that oral sex is simply wrong and that it conflicts with their personal code of acceptable behavior.
- Some people object to the mechanics of the behavior itself. Some people are concerned that the penis will be pushed too deep into the mouth and throat. Others are concerned that the inserting partner will ejaculate into the mouth, causing a gag reflex or other unpleasant reaction.
- Some men and women worry that the smell or taste of their partner's genitals will be unpleasant or offensive.
Answer to Question 2
Responses should consider:
- Unprotected anal intercourse is the highest-risk sexual behavior for the transmission of virtually all STIs if the inserting partner is infected. The lining of the rectum is thin and fragile, and lacks the elastic qualities of the vagina. Also, the anus and rectum do not produce any natural lubrication upon sexual arousal, so there is a high likelihood of damage to rectal walls, allowing direct contact of the inserting partner's semen with the receiving partner's bloodstream. If a couple who are free of STIs wishes to engage in anal intercourse, generous amounts of artificial lubricant should be used and penetration should be done very slowly and carefully.
- If the normally harmless bacteria in the anus and rectum are transferred to the urethra (in men or women), the vagina, or the vulva, they can cause vaginal, reproductive, and urinary tract infections. Therefore, it is extremely important that after anal stimulation or anal intercourse, vaginal stimulation or intercourse should be avoided until the hand, mouth, or penis has been washed or the condom has been changed.