Answer to Question 1
When you choose, develop an internal instruction to tie a new, adaptive behavior to a specific triggering event. A trigger can be either the event that prompted the old behavior or the event you want to associate with the new behavior-for example, standing in a slow-moving line. With time, your operating system will learn to look at previously tedious or stressful situations as opportunities to accomplish something and reduce stress.
Answer to Question 2
The first step on the way to successfully change is to commit quietly but fully and vow not to stop before reaching your goal. If you don't decide to change, your old habits win out; the moment you decide, you become formidable, like some hungry animal that will hunt relentlessly until it finds food. Things become clear; life becomes simpler because when you decide, you simplify it; one priority rises to the top. Making an unequivocal choice for change unleashes a nearly unstoppable force, especially if you tune into the pleasure.